I was referred to this article this year that was written back in 2015 from Inc. Magazine by Lolly Daskal. Reading this article made me realize that we have a ton of negative thoughts and activities that we need to give up in order to succeed.
If you find yourself doing any of these make it a goal for 2017 to “declutter” these items from your mind. Here is the list that was printed in the article. I hope you enjoy!
1. Trying to be perfect.
You can’t be so forget about it. Just do your best everyday and increase your skills; take courses, find a mentor, read books on your profession.
2. Playing small.
Think Big, Have Big Goals. Don’t limit yourself based on what you think you can do now. Grow into your goals.
3. Faking it.
That term fake it till you make it…get rid of that. Just be you, where ever you are in your growth, knowledge and skill. People can tell when you fake it and then you lose them forever as a customer, distributor or client.
4. Waiting for luck.
There is no such thing as luck. Opportunities and good things that happen to you are solely created by your thoughts and feelings. Your world is a direct reflection of what you believe not because of luck.
5. Waiting for anything.
Stop waiting for the right time, right person, right place…..again there will never be a right anything. Go get busy.
6. Needing approval.
The only approval you need is from yourself. Do the right thing and give it all you have. Live a balanced life. Go to bed at night knowing you treated everyone with respect and dignity.
7. Trying to do it alone.
Find people that are doing what you do. Network. Create a mastermind group. When you gather with like people you will learn more and achieve more.
8. Making empty promises.
I recently had a fellow promise something and I took a step of faith with this person. Turns out he was only offering empty promises. Now I will never work with this individual again. So if you make empty promises that is the result you will get as well.
9. Fixating on your weaknesses.
Everyone has week points. Just try to work on them but focus on your strengths.
10. Blaming others.
You lose respect from people by blaming others. Your current situation and your destiny are totally under your control.
11. Overlooking your negative thoughts.
Your thoughts become things. It is the basis for your total success or failure. You also reap what you sow. Therefore when a negative thought comes into your head, just don’t think it or dwell on it….CHANGE IT!
12. Living in the past.
You can’t cry over spilled milk. You future begins now. It is all you have so look to the future but live for today.
13. Trying to please everyone.
Newsflash: It’s impossible. So get over it and just be a good person.
14. Small goals.
Again….think big. Grow into your goals. If you set small goals then that is all you will achieve.
15. Holding on to grudges.
This is by far a cancer to you. Jesus told us to forgive. That was not for Him but for you. What you give comes back to you and holding grudges will create negativity that will show up in your life over and over.
16. Avoiding change.
You want change. Change means you are growing. If you are not growing you are dying.
17. Trying to never make a mistake.
Again this is like trying to be perfect. Making mistakes means you are trying. Do you think an Olympic Pole Vaulter made it over the bar the first time they ever tried to vault?
18. Minimizing yourself.
You are special and important and worthy. Act like it and you will attract leader to you.
This is a huge waste of your time, plus it hurts other people. And again you absolutely reap what you sow. Don’t do it.
20. Saying “I can’t”.
What you believe creates your thoughts. You get 100% of what you believe, all day everyday. So if you believe you can’t then you can’t.
21. Staying down.
If you fail at something and give up, then it’s over. Remember the pole vault specialist? How many times did they fail before they won the Gold?
Huge no-no. Complaining and fault finding are again negative feelings and that negativity will come back to you in the circumstances of your life.
23. Spending time with negative people.
Guard your heart. Negativity breads negativity. And again it will show up in your life over and over.
24. Comparing yourself with others.
You are you and no one else. God made you that way. This is your race to run. Find happiness and be grateful for your life. You don’t know what is going on in the lives of others. As long as you are doing the best you can and treating people with kindness you are successful.
25. Thinking you can’t make a difference.
There are so many people looking for someone who is willing to help them by sharing knowledge or just a smile. Remember what you do to others you do to yourself. That’s why Jesus gave us the Golden Rule. Because He knows the ultimate Law on this planet is the Law of reaping and sowing. You can make a difference that difference can spread like a ripple on a pond.
What’s your take on the list? Are you currently doing any of these things? If so, how have they affected your road to success?